Wow, I’ve forgotten how to type anything of actual meaning…

I currently have many half written, pieces of crap sitting around on the computer, that I started, and then got distracted by shiny objects and stopped. Kind of sad, really. I have completely lost my any talent I may have once possessed for writing anything of interest, but I still feel the need to write. So if you don’t like it, don’t read it.  

But while the writing bug may have left me, the opinionated one still buries deep. Can’t see that one leaving any time soon.  

Can someone please explain to me why everyone has such a pressing urge for people to like them? We (as a whole) walk out of our houses every day, proclaiming to ourselves that we dress for only ourselves, that we don’t care what other people think and that yes, I am an individual, it just so HAPPENS that what I like is in fashion right now (and yes, I have been told this one four times). We live our lives like the confident, proud individuals we are, and yet when we are walked all over, when someone makes a degrading comment, we have politely learned to sit back and accept it. Go home, consider it, and act accordingly next time. Can someone please tell me when we all lost our minds and balls? Why do we all feel the need to fix our lives based on other peoples’ comment cards?

 I’m at the point where I am snapping out of frustration. Why do people need such validation? Strangers on the street look you up and down, get used to it. You can’t tell me that you’ve NEVER made a comment on anyone’s dress sense. People try so hard to not cause a fuss, even if entitled, that it’s becoming a matter of dignity. There’s a fine line between being rude and sticking up for yourself. I know that at the end of the day, I would rather be walking around with something I asked for, than giving someone the satisfaction of knowing that have yet again, berated a customer into believing they have no rights. And yet so many of us are afraid to ask for things, because GOD forbid, someone might think a little less of us. Even consider they may think more of you? 

It’s reached the point where relationships are sold out, for the chance at some miniscule amount of (be it false or not) validation. While a mutual, negative attitude can bring many hours of conversation between two people, when it comes to facing the music and admitting it, most people would rather sell the other out, before allowing themselves to be in an awkward situation.

My favourite policy is honesty. Again, there is a difference between subtle honesty, and rude honesty. Some things, you bite your tongue, some things, you don’t (or I don’t to be exact). In terms of attitudes towards other people, it is still disgustingly commonplace for the Two-Faced approach to be acceptable. What can you gain from any of that? I’m unsure why being honest with your opinion of someone leads to being shunned by society. If you don’t like someone, don’t kiss up to them, simple. If you don’t like someone, don’t hold large gossip sessions in their name, then turn around and kiss their feet. Having said that, no one asked you to be rude. As the horrible well known saying goes, if you have nothing good to say, swallow your tongue (I changed it to suit my needs). It’s not hard to just not talk (harder for some).  

If someone can tell me exactly what you can gain from not being honest in a relationship (ANY relationship), I would LOVE to hear it. Yes, feelings can get hurt, but no one is asking you to be harsh with the truth. Would you rather be living in a fantasy world, where people think everything’s fine, until one day, they snap because they know NOTHING about you or what you’re thinking? 

Yes, this conversation has gone from one thing to something totally different, but the main point’s still there. Why are we so damn afraid to be disliked? Maybe I was just given too much self confidence as a child; maybe I have too much self esteem. Maybe people live such sad lives, that they can’t live with their decisions, and need others to dictate them.

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~ by samasama on February 11, 2007.